Ponder: My Friends

 My Friends ©2025 by Fredrik Backman is a story about the lives of four teenage friends who spent a summer of laughter together, despite the depressing home situation of each. Three are immortalized in a painting depicting three figures sitting on the edge of a pier, a painting which sells for an exorbitant sum of money. The painting was created by the fourth in their group. I was looking forward to enjoying this book since I read A Man Called Ove, also by Fredrick Bachman which I rated 5 stars in my 10/31/17 post reviewing it. Furthermore, 37800 readers on Amazon rated My Friends 4.6 stars and 253,400 readers on Goodreads rate it 4.4 stars. Despite these accolades, I was very disappointed in My Friends. I rate My Friends only 2 stars. To minimize the effort I put into the review for a book I rated so poorly, I present these AI summaries of the characters within. 

Louisa is the 17-year-old artist protagonist the novel, who is on the run from her foster home after her best friend, Fish, dies. She is creative, rebellious, and carries a postcard of a famous painting called "The One of the Sea," which becomes a central symbol of the book as she meets the reclusive artist behind it. The story intertwines her present-day journey with the past lives of the four teenagers who were the subjects of the painting.

The four teenagers associated with the painting:

• Joar is the group's "muscle and heart," a boy shaped by violence who is fiercely loyal to his friends
• Ted is one of four childhood friends who bond over art. He becomes a teacher, but his life takes a turn after an incident at school. He then becomes a friend and father figure to Louisa, a young artist, and is involved in the book's main storyline about art, friendship, and loss.
• Ali is a character who leaves the friend group because her father is in debt. She later becomes a skilled surfer; her story contributes to the themes of trauma and healing explored in the novel.
• The artist is the creator of the iconic painting "The One of the Sea". He is referred to "the artist" throughout and only near the end is his name revealed.

Scenes of laughter amidst teenage loyalty and bonding abound and are enjoyable. But the heart breaking situation of each of these characters seems to have an overriding air of dystopia for me. Violence, drug abuse, alcoholism, emotional abuse, bullying, and poverty to me were too pervasive to be neutralized by a summer's worth of escapist frivolity and mischief.

The book has two main timelines: present day Luisa, recently aging out of a foster home and the summer about twenty years ago shared by teenagers Joar, Ted, Ali and the artist. The two timelines intertwine as an adult Ted is telling Louis the story of that summer. The poignant theme of friendship and loyalty is to be commended, but I struggled with all the misfortunes above which these attributes were to rise. To me the glow of good triumphing over evil was buried under the darkness of the dystopian lives when those friends were not in each other's company. There were several twists in the book where the reader was led to believe something dire had occurred. The later revelation of the true situation made me feel the author was being cruel to the readers in misleading them.

I really forced myself to read the final third of this book. That says something for the author's skill in having me bond with the characters. I wanted to know how lives turned out, even though it was painful for me to doggedly persist in reading this novel to the very end. The psychological downers for me in My Friends seem in keeping with my erratic relationship with this author. I'd forgotten I had also read Anxious People by Fredrick Bachman and sadly rated it only 1 star in my 7/7/21 post reviewing it. Feeling angst when I read is not a desirable emotion for me. Feeling suspense is acceptable but not within a pervasive atmosphere of hopeless acceptance. Cope without hope is not read-worthy. 

 

★★☆☆☆ Ok, not great; some redeeming features; I finished it