Thursday, August 16, 2018

Wima Farewell

One week ago today Frank and I made our final trip to the vet with our cat Wima to have her put to sleep. She had been degrading slowly from poorly functioning kidneys but in the last week she really took a nose dive for the worst, not eating, not drinking, too weak to walk very far. Her chirps that said thank you when you petted her became fainter and fainter. Nineteen for a feline is the equivalent of 92 for a human. When she wasn't sleeping under a bed or in a closet, Wima was gracious and patient with the grandkids; she is shown in the next photo with our youngest granddaughter Lillian. This photo of Wima was taken two weeks before her sudden decline.


Wima's life journey with us began one evening in 1999 when our son Dan brought a tiny grey kitten home from the pool where he life guarded his junior year in high school. She was to stay only for one night because the owner who had left her behind would be "back the next day" to pick her up. You can guess how that turned out.


As a kitten in 1999 she was quite content to roam our home and stake out her territory, whether asleep in the living room (on the couch of course)...


... or in the kitchen, her little paws making tiny ticks on the vinyl flooring when they were not occupied tearing tufts of yarn out of the carpet.


Wima could also be a little tiger as we captured with this photo on the stairs. "Who me?" she  innocently acts as she gnaws on a piece of cording.


That kitten was a nuisance to our older cat Cassie, bugging her to play incessantly. Our daughter Robin, Cassie's champion, would chide Wima with, "You're OK but you are no Cassie". Cassie would try to avoid Wima by gracefully jumping up on the window sill, angling her trajectory parallel along the wall from the floor. Wima tried to follow but had not quite mastered the concept of the angling finesse. She would plunge headfirst, at right angles, into the glass window and bounce back onto the floor. She did learn eventually and then Cassie no longer had an escape from her tormenter. They eventually reached a truce with each other. Even though Wima was the younger, more spry cat she always, always, deferred to Cassie and let Cassie eat first at the food dish. When we took them together for a vet visit. Wima would cower under and behind Cassie as if asking to be protected. This is Cassie in 1999 when Wima joined our household. Cassie passed away in 2008 and Wima was free to totally rule the roost. 


Wima had always been very vocal. After a few weeks with us, she would yowl incessantly in a high toned, persistent pitch. We learned she was in heat. The internet  advised we could relieve her cravings/desires with a Q-tip strategically inserted. No way. We told Dan she was his cat but no way was he stepping up to the plate either to do the job! We had her spayed and the piercing, mournful caterwauling ceased. It was a similar yowling at the beginning days of her stay with us that earned her her name. I have told this story in an earlier post February 20, 2017 but I will repeat an abbreviated version here.

Dan had originally named her Magellan because the white markings on her underbelly took the shape of the Strait of Magellan, the path taken from the Atlantic to Pacific Ocean at the tip of South America. Her vocalizations earned her a less cultured and erudite, but far more apropos, moniker.


Shortly after her arrival, we had left the tiny kitten in his room to bond with our son's pheromones in his absence, but she was miserable at being left alone and would howl pitifully, "Woe is me... Woe is me...". When she got no response she would boldly and angrily add a punctuated screech at the end that we interpreted as "A**hole!" Hence the acronym WIMA became her nickname and Magellan sort of fell by the wayside. A vet once asked if her name came from the chorus of the song The Lion Sleeps Tonight (Wimoweh) recorded in 1961 by the Tokens. Although untrue and unrelated, it is a fun song about a lion sleeping which can be viewed on this 2013 You Tube link and it does make me think of Wima. It could have been her title song.

Needless to say Wima's owners never came for her and she grew to adolescence and then adulthood in Frank's and my care. Dan had left for college in fall of 2001. He learned that ironically he was allergic to cats. Here is an adult Wima in 2002 asleep on our bed – her territory expanding since apparently the couch was not enough.


Ever playful, also in 2002, she would bury herself inside the quilts as well as on them.


Another amusing sleeping location was on the window seat cushion in the master bedroom. What was unique about this spot is that when I sewed the seat covers, I used a fabric printed with heavy ropes and tassels. Wima always slept smack dab in the center of one of the tassels. Did she maybe think she was camouflaged? She also took to sleeping under our bed or in one of our closets.  One never knew when she had seized the opportunity to slip surreptitiously into the closet, even if ajar for only moments to remove or hang up an article of clothing. We learned to always leave at least one sliding door blocked open with a shoe on the floor so she did not get trapped within. Hinged closet doors had a towel tossed across the top so they did not close completely. Otherwise there would be massive scratching and a persistent demand to be freed at the most inconvenient of times.


When our son got married in 2011 his bride had a geriatric cat named Cammy. Guess where she came to live out her finals days. Yup. With us. Cammy and Wima never quite bonded but they tolerated each other and gave each other a wide berth.


Other animals in Wima's life were our Golden Retriever Daphne and our son's mixed breed dog Snoopy. Wima would lie on Daphne when the dog napped. Wima also licked Daphne's face while she was asleep, fearlessly and diligently cleaning the entire muzzle and eye area of a dog who weighed about ten times Wima's slight 6 lbs. Snoopy is staying with us temporarily while our son has some yard work done. In Wima's final days with us, Snoopy sensed her discomfort and kept near her in companionable support.


Wima was a timid cat though. Typically an indoor only cat, she once got outside and slipped under our deck. She refused to come when called, cowering in a far away, unreachable corner, for over a day. We were in quandary. Should we leave food and water for her so she stayed nourished? Or should we not leave anything so she would be forced to come out, eventually? We finally removed some boards from the deck, near the back door and left food and water for her there. We left the back door open. We watched. When she surfaced she drank and then took a few tentative steps into the house. I secretly watched from the kitchen. Once she was far enough in, I scooted behind her and shut the door. She ran and hid under the bed.

Frank had broken his hip hanging curtains in the bedroom and needed an emergency hip replacement November of 2016. (That story is in a December 15, 2016 post.) Wima shortly thereafter also broke her leg either falling out of our bed or getting tangled in the covers when she jumped out. The story of her accident is reported in February 20, 2017 post. After an ineffective week in a cast, it was determined she needed surgery to install a plate. Thereafter the cast was changed every two weeks for a total of 16 weeks in a cast. Here is a brief pictorial history of those casts: white before surgery, pink after surgery, and red/white/blue patriotic. There was also a purple and a green around St. Patrick's day but I could not find photos for those.




During the early days of Wima's recuperation, shortly after her surgery, she needed to be medicated and encouraged to eat. When dragging her out from under the bed by her tail or a leg (not the injured one of course) did not work, we would lure her with tuna fish. Long after the medication requirement faded and her cast had been removed, she came to expect those treats and would sing out at high pitch and high volume for us to fulfill her wishes - immediately if not sooner - several times a day!

These are our photos of her in March and July of 2018, still contented and playful, interacting with the granddaughters and other family members.



As she succumbed to her final illness, even the tuna did not appeal and she ceased to request it. She drank and ate less and less and slept more and more. One vet visit we gave her an injection for anti- nausea and hydrated her but she did not rally. We were told that veterinary technology is such that a kidney transplant was an option. We declined, but we did learn about where a source donor is found.  A shelter cat is used as the donor but with the stipulation that the recipient's owner must adopt the donor cat. It is kind of a win-win solution.



We said our final farewell to Wima at the vet's office on Thursday August 9th. She passed being held in Frank's arms and being stroked by both of us. She could be a demanding pain in the a** but nevertheless she was a great cat and we will sorely miss her.

Little things throughout the day are repeated reminders. Our sliding closet doors are fully closed now. There are no towels draped over the top of our hinged closet doors. When I watch TV, I no longer need to endure tiny deliberate pressure points on my thigh as she blatantly walks over me to climb into Frank's lap. I no longer bug Frank to brush the cat fur off that is clinging to his pants and our couch.  I no longer get granules of kitty litter embedded in the soles of my bare feet when I walk into Frank's office. I no longer bump into her water dish and slop half the contents onto our kitchen floor. Our garbage no longer smells of empty tuna fish cans but there is a final opened and partially emptied can of tuna still lingering in the refrigerator. When a shadow catches the corner of my eye, I am very quickly reminded it is not a tiny grey kitten smoothly gliding down the stairs, merely the shadow of a bird flying over our skylight, as fleeting as were those nineteen years of Wima in our lives.
 Rest In Peace, Wima. You will be missed.

Tuesday, July 31, 2018

Lillian & Dan Visit

Our son needed to work a construction job in Pleasant Hill, a town about 30 miles northwest of us. He decided to drive up with his 2 year old daughter Lillian and family dog Snoopy. They arrived Thursday evening, July 19th. Bringing Lillian would give Frank and me some one on one time with our granddaughter while giving her mom a bit of a reduced load from being home with Lillian's 4 year old sister Vivian and 3 month old brother William. Bringing Snoopy would allow some back yard landscaping they were having done to be performed without canine interference. Lillian was very happy and accepting of this arrangement from the get go. Her first day she settled in with some book reading. This is a book about dinosaurs with small finger size bubble spheres that pop in or out when poked with a finger tip. These Poke-a-Dot books are really fun - kinda like popping bubble wrap but each hemisphere is reversible.


Her first day here Lillian also surprised us by asking to go potty and being successful. She is quite proud of herself and especially happy with her Hershey kiss reward. This little girl loves chocolate. Lillian's potty training is in its early stages. This happy happenstance was one time at-a-girl occurrence and did not repeat during the visit. That's OK. She is only two and we did not push.


When you are relaxing you wear slippers, right? Even if they are a bit too large for your feet and meant for your daddy. At least she got them situated between her toes... sort of.


Although we set up a Pack 'n Play for napping and night time, Lillian decided she was going to sleep in a big girl bed. We went to Big Lots and bought two large diameter orange noodles. Lillian loved the outing, riding in the cart, and being in charge of managing the noodles on the way to the register.


By slipping these under the fitted sheet at the edges of the mattress they are a convenient, and cheap, pair of bed rails. We had bought bed rails for her older sister Vivian when slept here on an earlier visit, but they are a pain to put on and a pain to make the bed when they are in place. These are a much better solution.


On Friday, Frank and I took Lillian went to Livermore's Aquatic Park while Dan was working. She is certainly well protected from the sun. We followed her mom's instructions to the letter.


Water play is one thing but sharks are another. Lillian has a fascination with the song Baby Sharks, an extremely favorite pop culture fad right now.  Info on it is available on Wikipedia. The lyrics are very simple and the tune is catchy, truly an ear worm that rivals It's A Small World You can find the Pinkfong version on YouTube or a 30 minute extended version also on YouTube (Lillian's preference and the one in the following photo)
Baby shark doo doo, doo doo doo doo,
Baby shark doo doo, doo doo doo doo,
Baby shark doo doo, doo doo doo doo,
Baby shark.
~
Mama shark doo doo, doo doo doo doo...
~
Daddy shark doo doo, doo doo doo doo ...
~
Grandma shark doo doo, doo doo doo doo ...
~
Grandpa shark doo doo, doo doo doo doo ...
~
Etc.

On Saturday we went to Art Under the Oaks, an outdoor tented event hosted by our local nursery where artisans display their wares and talents for viewing and for sale. There is musical entertainment to enjoy and carts to ride in. Here Lillian has a front row seat for a Hawaiian Hula and Luau type  performance.


One of the performers took a liking to Lillian and brought over his ukelele for her to try.


The name of this booth was Garden Faces. I posed Lillian to be one of those faces.


She rode in the cart some of the time but most of the time wanted to walked beside it and Grandpa, wearing her backpack.


These gargoyle stone sculptures are just about Lillian size. I think she is far cuter, though.


Lillian loved just wandering around our backyard exploring. Forget about Where's Waldo. We played Locate Lillian, a speck, far out in the reaches of our landscaping of bushes and trees and dry river beds. She loved walking along the smooth rounded rocks; I would have twisted an ankle had I attempted that.


All that exploring can work up an appetite. Can this girl ever eat!!! She loves corn on the cob and broccoli trees. But of course, though, it had to be the yellow dinosaur fork.


On Sunday Frank and I went with Alex and Lillian to a matinee performance of The Little Mermaid musical.  We already had three tickets but needed to purchase a fourth and it was nearby but not adjacent. No matter. We all sat together. Once the show began Lillian watched all of it from her vantage point in my lap. She is wearing her top with the sea horses. She picked that to wear to The Little Mermaid. Pretty smart association, huh? Yep. That's my granddaughter.


I was very glad for an intermission break to get up and walk to the lobby for a snack. As we waited on line the choices were gradually getting depleted. Once we got up to the front I showed Lillian what was left as options. She insisted in the very clear, loud, strident voice of a two-year old "I WANT CHOCOLATE!" The clerks scrambled quickly and did dig up another carton of packages of chocolate chip cookies. Lillian enjoyed them thoroughly.


Frank and Alex enjoyed the show, also. It deviates from the movie story somewhat and has a few additional songs. Actors were on wheeled heel sneakers so they appear to float across the stage as they flip their fins. Travel to the water's surface is portrayed by a series of aerial flying scenes on wires. The colors were bright, costuming was creative, and it was a lot of fun.


We trekked on back to watch the second act. Lillian perched on my lap again. Grandpa's lap was apparently not a viable alternative per Lillian. Both my legs were numb when it came time to leave at the conclusion of the show.


On our stroll back to the parking garage, both Lillian and Alex posed for pictures by Livermore's famous statue by sculptor Susan Geissler titled Sunday With Jessie. We used to have a black Germador (German Shepherd Labrador mix) named Jessie so this statue has extra significance for us.


It is bemusing how the pink paint on the boy's face is worn off by people continually patting the statue. Apparently the crowd is more efficient than the dog is at licking off the ice cream.


Once home, Lillian sets about her serious job of building towers. "Ta-Da!" she says.


She is quite adept at puzzles, also.



Monday our outing was to the grocery store. Nob Hill had two cart sizes, large red ones or smaller black ones. This was not to be a major shopping expedition and so I asked Lillian which cart she wanted. She picked a third option I had neglected to offer, a cart with a sports car affixed to the rear. I tried to convince her that sitting up higher might be better for seeing all around but she had made up her mind. I inwardly groaned but bent over and painstakingly adjusted all the straps to her tiny frame. She would have it no other way, she has been well versed in safety first. 


Well, one and a half aisles into the store she changed her mind and wanted to sit up high. I was left to push this long unwieldy "stretch limousine" about the store with her three arms lengths away. She is clutching a box of sausages. Lillian developed a taste for this particular brand from Grandpa.


It appears that not only Lillian wants to change where she sits. Snoopy decided the cat bed was to his liking, even though he could fit only the rear half his body in it.


On Tuesday morning the library was hosting a music and story time. Lillian eagerly awaited us leaving to go there, back pack in tow.


After story and music time she picked out a book and checked it out.


The book is just about as big as she is. It was called Everything but the Horse.


Once home Grandpa read to her from it and from other books in our home library.


Lillian can "read" to herself, also. This one is about the Little Mermaid.


Lillian loved petting our cat Wima, and Wima extremely tolerant and accommodating. Her feline  peaceful world had been rocked by the arrival of an active 2 year old and a nosy part-pit-bull pooch. She held her ground and her self-proclaimed rightful place on the couch for napping. Frank and I are still working the dilemma of Wima's food being poached by Snoopy. Initially Snoopy did not like tuna fish, but he acquired the taste quite rapidly.


Lillian also made sure that Snoopy was comfortable and covered with a quilt for his nap. Snoopy relished the attention.


Making sure she gave some of her attention to everyone, Lillian kept Grandpa company while watching his trains run on the layout in the garage.


Our friend Vickie dropped by to say good bye to Lillian, who was surprisingly friendly and at ease with most folks she encountered at our home or on outings. She would be leaving with her dad on Thursday to drive back to Southern California. By the way, there are no pictures of Dan in this post. He was always working!


Wednesday was a laid back day with water play on our deck and backyard exploring. In the evening Frank took her with him to Home Depot and Lowe's for a cart ride and to make sewing time for me. While she napped and while Frank was with her at the home improvement stores, I finished sewing up Goldilocks and Baby Bear for Lillian to take home with her. I did not get to finish Mama Bear and Papa Bear but promised I would send them along when I did.


Thursday, July 26th was departure day. To make sure Lillian had used up some energy before the start of the long car ride, we played ball with her a lot in an attempt to run her ragged. Her tiredness factor did not seem to be on the rise. The same could not be said of Frank and me. When it came close to nap time, we kept her awake by putting on the DVD Frozen. Lillian loves Anna and Elsa. She watched intently, tucked under a quilt of her choice, in the company of Goldilocks and Baby Bear.


Dan took our traditional "just before you take off" photo on the living room couch. Note that Wima got in the act.


Snoopy was staying behind with us in Livermore. The landscaping schedule in Southern California had slipped (...a likely story....) and the sweet but needy and challenging pup would be ours to care for, for the next few weeks. Lillian is telling Snoopy good bye, too.


The visit was great. Although I am not well-conditioned for changing table ups-downs, carseat manipulations, extended lap seating, and continuous feedings, the minor aches and pains and semi-exhaustion I accumulated will fade within a few days. However, the awesome memories of Lillian will linger. We got to know Lillian much better. She is such a smart, lovable, confident, determined, little charmer. Frank and I are walking around the house repeating her phrases:  
"Grandma do it." "Sausages." "Watermelllah." "Baby Shark." "I got it." "Wima." "Blue plate." "Ice cream cone?" "Anna and Elsa." "Chocolate!"